It took me a long time to learn that feeling fear doesn’t make you a coward.
Like most people, I used to look at fear as a bad thing. If I were really brave, I would never feel fear, period. Therefore I concluded that I must not be brave.
Anytime I felt fear bubbling up inside of me, I would take it as a sign that I was doing something wrong. That I couldn’t take on the challenge. And I would quit.
But, at some point, I realized that everyone feels fear. Even the seemingly fearless like retired Navy SEAL David Goggins.
What someone like Goggins does differently than the rest of us is that he doesn’t let his fear control him. He acknowledges it. , Then, rather than retreating or letting it overwhelm him, he leans into it. He takes his fear as a sign that he must be doing something right by taking on a challenge.
Fear has some useful benefits we often overlook. It evolved to give us strength, speed, and stamina. Feeling fear means we’re pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone.
So help fear do its job.
Next time you feel fear bubbling up, ask yourself: “how can I make use of all this energy?”
Think about what value-driven activities you can channel your energy into.
Better yet, start to notice where you feel the fear in your body — is it in your belly, your chest, the back of your throat?
As you notice where you feel fear in your body, you may also become aware that it’s the same area where you feel excitement. So To turn fear into excitement, you simply need to reframe your fear.
Start by acknowledging your fear, then telling yourself, “I am excited” as you breathe into the feeling.
Sound silly? Try it before you knock it.
As Russ Harris, ACT mindfulness expert and author of one of my favorite books, The Confidence Gap says:
“Fear is not your enemy. It is a powerful source of energy that can be harnessed and used for your benefit.”
Fear is your brain and body readying you for action.
Regard it as a teammate, not an opponent. Allow it, channel it, and use it.