It’s supposed to be hard (+ a calisthenics workout)

Happy Monday,

Last Thursday, I had what I can only call a bad day. Everything that day felt hard. My writing, my training, my personal life — in all of it, I felt lost, frustrated, and unsure of what to do next.

After struggling through one thing after another, I began to wonder if I was on the wrong path. ‘Maybe it’s time to try something else,’ the voice in my head nagged at me. ‘You seem to be sucking at everything lately.’

Although most people see quitting as a sign of giving up, quitting isn’t always a bad thing. Conversely, quitting things that no longer match our current priorities can free up our time and energy for the things we care more about. But when I gut-checked myself that day, it quickly became clear that quitting wasn’t the right move.

Instead, I needed to accept that I was in a challenging place with each of my goals — and that it was not only OK, but it might also be a good sign that I was feeling that way.

Growth usually results from big challenges — whether chosen or not. So, what if instead of reacting to times of struggle as a sign that we need to back off or that we’re doing something wrong, we looked at them as a sign we’re doing something right?

When we’re in the gym, pushing ourselves through a difficult workout, we know that the challenge we’re putting ourselves through now will pay off and result in a stronger, fitter version of ourselves later.

We can learn to reframe other challenges in our lives in this way, too. It takes practice and might mean we must keep reminding ourselves that struggle is the path to growth, but it’s doable. It starts with the simple awareness that the feeling of struggle is normal — and even desirable.

As Martha Beck writes in Finding Your Own North Star:

“We see loss of identity, temporary lack of direction, and a sense of unfamiliarity as terrible catastrophes, instead of typical and essential parts of personal growth. Like a woman who can handle the pain of childbirth once she learns it’s normal, you can learn to recognize and accept the emotional agony of giving birth to a new you.” 

When we recognize that most things worth doing are supposed to be hard, we become less surprised when we reach points in our journey where we’re lost, frustrated, or unsure of what to do next.

We can simply acknowledge it, accept it, and tell the voice in our head that it should feel this way. And then we must do the only thing we can do: figure out the tiniest possible next step to keep us moving forward.


What I’m reading (article)
Find What You Love and Let it Kill You by James Rhodes / The Guardian
“My life involves endless hours of repetitive and frustrating practising, lonely hotel rooms, dodgy pianos, aggressively bitchy reviews, isolation, confusing airline reward programmes, physiotherapy, stretches of nervous boredom (counting ceiling tiles backstage as the house slowly fills up) punctuated by short moments of extreme pressure (playing 120,000 notes from memory in the right order with the right fingers, the right sound, the right pedalling while chatting about the composers and pieces and knowing there are critics, recording devices, my mum, the ghosts of the past, all there watching), and perhaps most crushingly, the realisation that I will never, ever give the perfect recital. It can only ever, with luck, hard work and a hefty dose of self-forgiveness, be “good enough”.”
What I’m reading (book)
The Writing Life by Annie Dillard
“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing. A schedule defends from chaos and whim. It is a net for catching days. It is a scaffolding on which a worker can stand and labor with both hands at sections of time. A schedule is a mock-up of reason and order—willed, faked, and so brought into being; it is a peace and a haven set into the wreck of time; it is a lifeboat on which you find yourself, decades later, still living.”
“To improve is to change, so to be perfect is to have changed often.” — Winston Churchill
What I’m training
Calisthenics workouts never get old. Here’s one_ you can do at your favorite calisthenics park (or gym, if it’s freezing where you are!).
Three new workouts
Do Anywhere Jump Rope HIIT Workout (12 minute, jump rope)
270 Rep Home Challenge Workout (Time challenge, equipment-free)
You can get these and all future workouts right in the 12 Minute Athlete app when you subscribe as a Super Athlete.
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Dream bigger!
– Krista

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